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02. HOW TO MAKE YOUR CONFIDENCE VISION A REALITY
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Accept your weaknesses and imperfections.
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Everyone has weaknesses and they can fall into different categories.
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Some weaknesses may have no real impact on the things that matter most to you, while others might be
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more significant.
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Some come from a lack of information or experience, and others simply from a lack of practice.
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Sometimes our weaknesses are connected to our temperament or natural abilities.
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What's most important is not the weakness itself, but how you handle it.
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As you've learned, resisting your weaknesses only increase your suffering.
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For example, if you avoid public speaking because you're not great at it, even though it's a crucial
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part of your goal, that avoidance might provide short term relief, but will cost you the long term
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growth and success you're seeking.
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Facing the possibility of failure can feel terrifying, but by accepting your weaknesses, you can start
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to see them as opportunities to grow rather than shameful flaws.
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There are probably Any weaknesses you have that don't really affect your ability to live in line with
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your values, yet you still might be bothered by them.
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In those cases, letting go of the shame and embracing the fact that you're not perfect can be incredibly
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relieving.
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For example, if you're a passionate teacher but struggle with technology, admitting you need help
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might lead to a better outcome.
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Your students may even step in to assist, and you'll feel supported rather than burdened by your limitations.
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Identifying your challenges.
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To begin exploring your weaknesses, take a moment to jot down some thoughts in response to these prompts.
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You can pause the video if you want to.
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Recognizing challenges.
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Weaknesses.
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I'm aware of what's most likely to make me give up.
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What trips me up time and time again.
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What keeps me from moving forward.
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Feedback I have received that might indicate a weakness, and what roles or tasks do I tend to avoid?
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Once you've finished, review your answers and look for patterns.
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Then list three or more of your most prominent challenges or weaknesses.
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Embrace vulnerability.
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As Brené Brown said, imperfections are not inadequacies.
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They are reminders that we're all in this together.
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One of the hardest parts of accepting your weaknesses is the fear that others might see them.
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You may worry that if people knew your struggles or mistakes, they would reject you.
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But research shows that vulnerability is actually what connects us to others.
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When you allow people to see your imperfections, they often feel relieved and are more likely to share
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their own.
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Embracing imperfection doesn't mean you have to share all your challenges with everyone, but if a particular
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weakness causes you deep shame, try confiding in someone you trust.
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You may find that sharing your vulnerabilities helps you feel more authentic and connected.
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Lifting a weight off your shoulders.
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Cultivate a growth mindset.
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Consider the following statements and choose the ones that resonate most with you.
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A I'm either good at something or I'm not.
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B I can learn to do something if I put in the effort.
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A I tend to take feedback personally.
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B I see feedback as a tool for improvement.
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A when things aren't going well, I give up.
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B when things get tough, I see it as a challenge to overcome.
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A I stick to what I know.
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B I'm open to learning new things.
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If you chose mostly a responses, you may have what psychologist Carol Dweck calls a fixed mindset,
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where you see your abilities as set in stone.
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If you selected mostly B responses, you're likely operating with a growth mindset, which means you
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believe effort and attitude can help you improve even if you identify with a fixed mindset.
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Don't worry, mindsets can change.
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Simply learning about the concept of growth versus fixed mindsets can encourage you to try new things
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and embrace challenges.
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Look back at your weaknesses.
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Is there an area where you could seek out more information or training?
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Take some time to reflect on how you might approach your challenges with curiosity and a willingness
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to learn.
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Also, pay attention to your self-talk.
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Shifting your language can help transform a fixed mindset into a growth mindset.
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For example, a fixed mindset says, I'm not good at handling conflict.
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A growth mindset says, I haven't been good at handling conflict yet.
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By adding phrases like yet or up to this point, you leave room for growth and possibility.
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Brain science 101.
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Understanding our reactions.
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Our brains have evolved to prioritize safety and survival, which can sometimes make us hyper aware
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of our weaknesses and differences from others.
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This is a normal part of our wiring.
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Historically blending in with the group was essential for survival.
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What this means It's natural to worry about how others perceive you, but it's important to recognize
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that comparisons and self-criticism aren't always helpful.
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Our brain's fear network is designed to keep us alert to danger.
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Activating the fight or flight response when we sense a threat.
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What this means we are more prone to focus on negative aspects of ourselves and our circumstances.
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So we need to make a conscious effort to override this negativity bias.
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Thankfully, our brains also have a tend and befriend response, which is activated through connection
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and nurturing.
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This part of the brain responds to warmth, gentle touch, and soothing words.
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What this means when you tap into this part of the brain, you experience less stress and more emotional
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balance.
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By understanding how your brain works, you can begin to work with it rather than against it.
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Cultivating a mindset that supports growth, self-comp
03. BUILDING CONFIDENCE - 29 ADVANCED STRATEGIES
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What makes you happy.
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When asked this question, most people respond with a standard list friends, family, reading, hiking.
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But how often do we think about the small, everyday things that bring us joy?
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How can we cultivate happiness in our daily lives, not just from big activities, but also from the
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little moments that make life brighter?
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Most people have several big activities that bring them happiness, whether it's visiting museums,
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spending time in nature, or creating art.
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These activities are easy to identify.
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However, many don't realize that smaller, everyday moments can also contribute to their overall happiness.
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When you combine these small joys with your larger passions, they can create a lasting sense of fulfillment.
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One way to discover these smaller sources of happiness is through journaling.
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Writing down your thoughts and experiences can help you uncover the little activities that brighten
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your day.
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For instance, maybe you find comfort in a cup of tea after work, watching a favorite TV show, or
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even journaling itself.
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These seemingly simple pleasures can add so much to your life when you take time to notice them.
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Sometimes, reflecting on your daily habits can reveal surprising insights.
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Perhaps you've always enjoyed folding laundry or find peace in cooking an elaborate meal when you want
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to.
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Identify these small joys.
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Think about the activities you turn to when you're feeling stressed or need to unwind.
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Pay attention to what brings you a sense of relief or contentment throughout the day.
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By taking notes on these moments, you may discover sources of happiness you hadn't noticed before.
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True happiness comes not only from the big things in life, but also from the smaller, often overlooked
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moments.
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The larger sources of happiness often reflect our values and character, but the essence of joy can
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be found in the small, intimate parts of our daily routine.
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To unleash this joy, you need to be both practical and introspective.
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Try making a list of the little things that bring you joy, like the satisfaction of a second cup of
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coffee.
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Not just for the energy boost, but for the pleasure it brings.
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Noticing these little things helps you recognize what truly contributes to your sense of happiness.
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It's crucial to give the small joys in life as much importance as the big milestones.
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While the media tends to focus on major life events like landing a new job or traveling the world,
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joy can just as easily be found in the pages of a good book, or the sight of a new decoration in your
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home.
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By giving equal attention to the smaller moments, you can amplify the happiness they bring and spread
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that positivity into other areas of your life.
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In the end, it's the combination of big and small joys that creates a sense of fulfillment and creativity
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in everything you do.
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By recognizing and appreciating the little things, you'll inspire new perspectives and add a fresh
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spark to your daily life.
16. You Have The Power
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It is clearly important to be confident.
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But what sets confident individuals apart from everyone else in this section some extra ordinary behaviors
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of truly confident people are uncovered.
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So let's start confident people are not desperate for attention.
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Nobody appreciates people who are just desperate for attention.
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When it comes to confident individuals they realize that being yourself is important.
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As people are attracted to the right behavior they are experts at diffusing a passion if they are given
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a passion for achievement.
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They try to shift the focus quickly to others who helped them get there.
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In short we don't yell for the praise or approval because their self-worth originates from within.
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Next covenant people avoid judging others.
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This is one basic trait.
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Only kaufen of people possess they avoid passing judgements on the people around them because they understand
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that everyone has his or her own specialties.
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But don't try to degrade others so as to feel better about themselves.
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Another fact that they know is that comparing their abilities with votes of others will only limit them.
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We don't waste our time wandering.
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Ever live up to our expectations or not.
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Next listen to our inner self.
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According to our research conducted by the University of California the more difficult it is for you
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to say no to something the more strength and depressed you might feel confident individuals know that
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refusing something they don't want is healthy self-esteem enables them to make clear refusals when it
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is time to refuse or reject something.
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Confident individuals don't use phrases like I'm not sure if I can or I want to but I'm certain they
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refuse clearly and openly because they realize that saying no to something they don't need gives them
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a unique opportunity to fulfill their existing commitments.
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Next listen first.
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Speak later.
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People with higher levels of confidence give more importance to listening and speaking they speak less
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because they don't have the urge to prove anything to others.
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They don't see interactions as mere opportunities to prove their worth to others.
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Instead of our main focus is on the communication itself.
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They make every possible effort to make the interaction more productive and enjoyable.
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Next.
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Confident people ask for help.
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They realize that asking others for help doesn't make them appear foolish or weak.
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They understand their strengths and weaknesses and not hesitate to look to their friends to fill the
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gaps.
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Always willing to learn from someone with more knowledge or expertise.
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Confident people enjoy every victory.
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Confident people seek out every victory they challenge themselves.
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Compete put in the best effort and value celebrate every small victory.
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A series of victories no matter how small can keep you motivated for months next.
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Confident people search happiness from within.
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Happiness is one of the most critical aspects of confidence.
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If you want to be confident in what you achieve it is necessary to be satisfied with who you are.
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Confident individuals dig for a sense of satisfaction and pleasure from their achievements.
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They don't care what others think of their accomplishments.
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Understand that no matter what or or say they are not as good as bad as people think they are.
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Next.
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Confident people celebrate others.
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Not individuals focus outward which enables them to see and enjoy all of the amazing Go thinks of our
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people.
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Unlike insecure people they don't try to be in the spotlight at all times or criticize others just to
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prove their worth.
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They praise and appreciate people and make them feel good about their abilities and strengths.
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Next point often people accept of their mistakes they never hesitate to accept their mistakes.
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They put their belief out there to check if it holds up.
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They learn from others even are wrong and help others learn from them.
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If they are right and Veloce trait of kaufen people so it matters you might not have seen any kaufen
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person yelling phrases like I think or the reason being they think and speak assertively realize that
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people don't find a trustworthy or reliable.
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If you are not sure about your ideas or opinions that is why they make sure to deliver your views with
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conviction.
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That was our lesson than traits of confident people.
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They are not desperate for attention.
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Avoid judging others listen to their inner self listen first speak later ask for help.
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Enjoy every victory.
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Happiness comes from within.
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Celebrate others accept their mistakes.
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And finally certainty matters.
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Thank you very much.